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Guest blog – banking of a different kind, part 2, by Rachel Brushfield

Rachel kindly submitted a blog published on this site a few weeks ago, entitled ‘Banking of a different kind’. Here I’m delighted to publish her follow-up piece. The words which follow are all Rachel’s own. Enjoy! This blog shares the benefits of coaching and personal development and 11 useful resources; personal development books, personal development courses and personal development seminars, videos etc. Time is precious and business pressured, so what are the benefits of personal development? This is what our clients say:

  • Time to reflect/think through where you are and where you are going
  • Time to think about you
  • Time to build on your strengths and address weaknesses
  • Understanding that you can choose to respond to others better
  • Better understanding of yourself and how to relate to others
  • How to address day to day issues better
  • Identifying problems, weaknesses and opportunities and how to work on them
  • How to use strengths to overcome weaknesses
  • Skills to be more confident about yourself and dealing with others
  • A forum to discuss issues/goals/frustrations and how to resolve them
  • How to see situations from others’ perspectives
  • Greater understanding of self, how to reframe, pause and reflect and insights into problem solving
  • Feeling supported and empowered
  • More aware, reflective and reasoned
  • How to be more balanced, composed and in control
  • The opportunity to discuss key personal & professional issues in a non-judgmental and objective environment
  • Time and space to express feelings and thoughts
  • An opportunity to refocus attention
  • Vocalising goals so they seem more real and obtainable
  • Breaking down big scary overwhelming change into small steps, making it easy
  • How to achieve goals
  • A platform to concentrate on the things you’ve been putting off or avoiding
  • Understanding the cost of not addressing important issues
  • Feeling more in control and that you have choice over thoughts & actions
  • Feedback, reframing, support & challenge from someone there for you
  • Courage to do what you want to do
  • Unravels the confusion, identifies the route to be taken and prioritises the abilities that can best be utilised and where
  • A supportive, objective and confidential sounding board

We have identified 5 client types who benefit from personal development.  Which type do you relate to? “I ‘have it all’, so why am I so tired and dispirited?” “I know what I want, but I’m not sure how to best achieve it.“ “I don’t know what I want, but I know it’s not this for much longer!” “I know/I’ve been told that I need to acquire a new skill/adapt my behaviour or habits, but show me how to fast!” “I need someone confidential/objective to talk to and bounce ideas off who I trust” 11 personal development tips

  1. Get a coach
  2. Get a mentor
  3. Look at Ted talks http://www.ted.com/
  4. Get in touch about our Energise personal development articles. Topics include busyness addiction, how to do absolutely nothing, managing procrastination, overcoming overwhelm, fear, beliefs, safe risk, insight mining etc.
  5. Read the iconic book Stephen Covey ‘7 habits of highly effective people’
  6. Define your personal values
  7. Do a psychometric test to increase your self-awareness about your personality type and what impact this has on you and others e.g. Myers Briggs, Insight, Belbin, Talent Dynamics
  8. Create a personal development plan with S.M.A.R.T. objectives which will benefit yourself, your employer and your clients
  9. Write an account of your life and what has influenced it
  10. Keep a worry diary to monitor what you worry about
  11. Do a mindfulness class

Are you interested in coaching? Get in touch for a no obligation conversation. What’s the best action you can take to explore personal development for yourself or someone you supervise/manage? Rachel Brushfield

Rachel Brushfield

Talent Liberator

EnergiseLegal

rachel@energiselegal.com

@EnergiseLegal

+ 44 (0) 845 22 55 010

+ 44 (0) 7973 911137

 

Guest blog – Banking of a different kind by Rachel Brushfield

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During the downturn years, I have been doing some serious banking. Not financial banking, but banking of a different kind. I have been banking insights, self-awareness and tools to make myself more useful for my clients and kinder to myself. In a world of uncertainty with disruption the ‘new normal’, this has been an excellent investment, with far greater returns than the interest in a saving bank account would have yielded. Self-interest is not selfish, it is wise and make you resilient and resourceful.  More kind to yourself and more useful and self-aware with others.

I have been banking a number of useful commodities that I am sure you can relate to easily; new high quality contacts now tagged connections on LinkedIn to create ease in future, thought leadership with books, chapters and articles published, content to share for a content hungry world, trend digests to help me make focused and sound business decisions and to add additional value to my time-poor clients.  But I have also been banking something that many lawyers poo poo. Insights and tools from personal development, that soft fluffy thing that is so hard to prove the benefit of or justify in business.

Or is it?

The personal development that I have done on myself in the downturn years and indeed throughout my life has given me a rich treasure chest of useful tools for lifelong use. If such a qualification existed, it would equate to a PHD. In a coaching market that is currently unregulated, isn’t that reassuring to know?

As I sit writing this, I picture you reading this, cynical, sceptical. Am I being unfair to you? You need evidence, I know, practical tangible evidence. You are lawyers trained in critical thinking.

Ok then, here you go. Some examples of how personal development has been useful:

  • Staying present and achieving a complete turnaround of an outcome in an hour with a stressed HR law firm client. Closing gambit – “I apologise, I took out my frustration on you, we do want to continue working with you.” Opening gambit “We think you are too expensive, you are not giving us what we want and we are not sure we want to work with you any more.”
  • Making decisions in line with my personal values, the things that are important to me, so that I am always authentic and fulfilled
  • Staying resourceful and resilient when my back has been against the wall at the darkest time post 2007 crash
  • Preventing a high potential employee from derailing their career. They were physically running out of the room before delivering a training. In 4 hours of coaching, I helped them understand why their fight or flight mechanism was kicking in and to develop a detailed strategy and plan to feel comfortable and choose to stay in the room. It worked first time.
  • The instant disappearance of anger in a client by working out the insight that the anger was caused by frustration. The cause? Conversations were always moving on to a different topic because an introverted and reflective French speaking father was thinking in French, translating into English and preparing what to say, compared with his extroverted fast thinking and speaking English wife and children.

Why have I made personal development a priority? The future has been firmly in my sights – a happy inner future as well as a prosperous financial and reputational outer one.

Finally, one last thing to share. One of the things that has stuck in my mind when I researched and wrote an article for Managing Partner magazine on emotional intelligence was the insight that a feeling is faster than a thought, neurologically speaking.  Now that could give you a serious competitive advantage. Not so soft and fluffy perhaps.

Rachel Brushfield

Talent Liberator

EnergiseLegal

rachel@energiselegal.com

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@EnergiseLegal

+ 44 (0) 845 22 55 010

+ 44 (0) 7973 911137